One Christmas, I decided I would make the gift-giving experience really easy on my husband. I told him in October exactly what I wanted-- a jewelry armoire-- and exactly where to buy it.

I woke up on December 25th with great expectations and, along with the children, looked around the living room for a giant, colorfully-wrapped box that might hold my new piece of furniture. Nada.

The children opened their gifts, and so did we. He gets up from his chair and proceeds outside. My heart did a little jig in my chest. Yippee!

Then in walks my beloved spouse holding a dutch oven. A pot.

"I know this isn't what you wanted for Christmas," he says, "and it's NOT your gift. But I know you said you wanted one, so I thought I'd go ahead and buy it."

My response was a quizzical expression. Or maybe it was the look one gives when they are contemplating how best to end someone's life.

"When I got to the store, they were out of those things you wanted," he says.

I got a pot for Christmas.



What, you might ask, does this have to do with what women WANT for Valentine's Day?

My answer is: PLENTY!

In a word, women want consideration.



They want to know that their significant other took some time to really think about and notice them in a way that matters. We know we aggravate you and frustrate you sometimes. What really matters is knowing that we mean enough that our true happiness is important to you.

Notice what we enjoy and give a gift that says you do.

Appreciate the amount of time we spend trying to make the lives of our families run more smoothly. Think about doing something that allows us to spend just a few minutes on ourselves.

Is there something we've been mentioning, even nagging you about? What is it? Can you do something about it?

Plan a date with us to a place that YOU choose because you want to spend time in our company. We enjoy feeling special and like you love us for the person we are.

As for that pot...

My husband was listening. He heard me say I really wanted one of them, and we still use it almost every week to this day. At the time, I didn't appreciate the gift when it was given.

Since then, I hope I've learned to listen and be more considerate. Ladies, it goes both ways.

I hope you have a wonderful Valentine's Day.