Too Ugly to Have Children? — Your Opinion
Here’s an interesting letter that was received by a fellow broadcaster last week:
My boyfriend and I are in a great relationship, and we are beginning to talk about marriage. We both want the same number of kids at the same point in our lives. It is presumed that these will be our biological children. The issue is, I’m not sure that I would want to bear my boyfriend’s children. While he is incredibly intelligent and has a great personality, he is less physically attractive and than I am. We get occasional lighthearted comments from friends and family about the discrepancy. Having biological children has never been important to me, and I think adoption is great. I believe that he will be an amazing father and that our children, biological or adopted, would be bright and well-behaved as a result of good parenting. Should I bring these thoughts up with him? I think he would be open to the idea of adoption but would also be hurt by my rationale. At what point should we discuss this more seriously, and how should I tell him how I feel?
Now, I’ll admit to marrying out of my “looks” department, but this woman seems just more than a little sold on her own looks. Can you imagine the poor guy when and if she goes to him and says that he’s just not good looking enough for her to want to have his children. Doesn’t it seem to you that, if she’s really “in love” with this guy that she would want to have children with him?
Well, let me know what you think.